Emotions are part of who you are. Sometimes you laugh, other times you feel sad or mad and it’s okay to feel that way. The important thing is what you do and the choices you make when you have these feelings.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is something you can do help you get through your unwanted feelings.
It can help get rid of unwanted feelings because it targets meridian points or energy centers in your body. It’s a simple technique that you can teach children to use.
Sometimes things happen that make us mad or sad and we make the wrong choice. Other times it grows inside us and we feel worse because we don’t deal with it.
It doesn’t matter if we’re an adult or a child, either way, it’s not good to ignore how we feel. Here’s something you can try with the children in your life.
Depending on the age of the child your working with you may or not want to use the movements. They were just a suggestion.
I believe they can help make it more fun for a younger child, even if it takes longer. After all, children usually enjoy moving and being able to be a bit noisy.
But If you’re pressed for time using the tapping points and naming the feelings is all you really need to do this exercise.
Magic Fingers, Movement, and Voice
Have them wiggle their fingers than tap their heart three times. Encourage them to turn in a circle and jump as high as they can and say out loud how they are feeling and make that face.
Give them the chance to let it out and use a big strong voice and say “aaaah!” Sound can be a great release of built up tension and stress.
Have them use their fingers and gently tap the top of their head while saying; “I feel… because… but I am a good kid and I like myself.”
Then have them tap in-between their eyebrows while they name that feeling again, but this time have them add “I don’t’ want to feel this way anymore.
How We Feel
By naming the feeling and stating the desire for it to go away the door is being opened to help them get past the unwanted feelings.
Now have them tap under their nose and say, “even though I felt… because… I’m still a good kid and it was okay for me to feel that way.” Then have them tap under their mouth and say, “I was feeling… because… and I don’t like it.”
Ask them to put their hand on your heart and say; “I want this sad feeling to go away so I can be happy.” Ask them to take a deep breath like their smelling flowers.
Let them pretend to blow out lots of candles, and everything that’s bothering them; then check in with them. If needed repeat the process.
Have Some Fun
You can add some fun by having them put on their pretend robe and crown and tell them they are the king or queen of their feelings and actions.
Have them touch their crown and heart while they say; “I’m in charge of my feelings and the choices I make.” Then have the child tap in-between their eyebrows and say; “I am important and I like myself”
Let them jump up and down three times and spin in a circle. Then ask them to place their hands on their head and heart one more time.
Let the Good Feelings In
Ask them to say; “happy thoughts are part of me, they live in my heart and mind, and the feelings I don’t want to go away so I can feel better.”
Have them clap their hands together and give themselves a big hug and say; “I have a big heart and a great mind, and I know what to do.”
Remind them that if they feel sad, mad or nervous that it’s okay. Encourage them to think of their fingers as magic wands that help make unhappy feelings go away.
Let them know it’s important, to tell the truth about how they feel and why. Encourage them to state aloud that even when they’re sad or mad that they’re still a good kid and they like them-self because they’re important and so are their feelings.
Positive statements about liking one’s self no matter how we feel are part of what makes tapping or (EFT) effective for both kids and adults.
Have them say things like I’m a good friend, or I’m a fast runner so they feel encouraged.
Everyone has negative feelings at times, but they don’t make us any less special or important.
Giving our feelings a name and affirming that we love and accept our-self no matter how we feel makes way for change and more positive emotions.
(This article was inspired by books I’ve read, my own practice and my own touch to make it something kids might want to do.)
Here’s a great book I got on tapping with kids, I found it on Amazon!